My Inner Self Healing

In life, we often find ourselves entangled in cycles of comfort—patterns that feel familiar, even when they no longer serve us. These cycles can be difficult to break, as they offer a sense of security, a place where we feel safe. Yet, if we want to grow, to truly evolve, we must be willing to step beyond the comfort of the known and venture into the unknown.

This brings me to a poem I wrote, which captures this very struggle:

She listens intently,
and it breaks her heart,
she wants to reach out,
but knows better than to play that part.

She has heard it all before,
and knows that it’s comfort that they seek,
she has grown from these encounters,
strength in her, she feels not weak.

When I wrote this, I was reflecting on those moments when we want to step in and offer comfort, to soothe the pain of those we care about. But I realized that sometimes, the most profound growth happens when we hold back—when we let others navigate their own journey, even if it breaks our hearts to see them struggle. It’s not about withholding love; it’s about recognizing that true strength often comes from within, forged in the fires of personal experience.

When we seek change, we must be open to it. This openness is essential for growth. However, it’s all too easy to get wrapped up in old behaviors. We often take comfort in these familiar patterns, but in doing so, we remain stuck. The cycle continues, and while it may feel safe, it keeps us from moving forward.

Growth is hard. It requires us to face the unknown, to step away from the safety of our old patterns and embrace something new. But this is where true change happens. Growth takes us in the direction we want to go, toward the freedom we seek.

The lines in my poem remind me that the person who listens, who understands these patterns, also understands the importance of strength. I’ve grown from these encounters, and through this growth, I no longer feel weak. I’ve come to understand that offering comfort isn’t always the solution—sometimes, the best way to support someone is to give them the space to grow on their own.

So, the next time you find yourself giving in to those negative feelings, those familiar patterns, remember to stay strong. Hold on to the change you seek, and embrace the unknown. It’s worth it in the end. You are worth it.

From My Perspective as a Life Coach:

As I reflect on my personal journey, both as a writer and a life coach, I see how intertwined these roles are. Growth is deeply personal and often uncomfortable, but it is in this discomfort that transformation occurs. Here’s how you can embrace and enhance your growth journey:

1. Self-Awareness is Key: The first step in breaking free from old patterns is to become aware of them. Ask yourself, “What are the behaviors, thoughts, or emotions that keep me stuck?” By identifying these, you can begin to understand what triggers them and how they serve you, even if it’s not in a positive way.
2. Set Intentional Goals: Growth doesn’t happen by accident. It’s important to set clear, intentional goals that align with the direction you want your life to take. These goals should challenge you, pushing you out of your comfort zone, yet be achievable enough to maintain your motivation.
3. Embrace Discomfort: Change is rarely comfortable. It’s natural to feel resistance when stepping into the unknown, but this resistance is a sign that you’re on the right path. Instead of avoiding discomfort, lean into it. Ask yourself what this discomfort is teaching you and how it can propel you forward.
4. Practice Self-Compassion: Growth is a process, and it’s okay to stumble along the way. Be gentle with yourself. Celebrate small victories and understand that setbacks are part of the journey. Self-compassion helps you maintain a positive mindset, which is crucial for long-term success.
5. Surround Yourself with Support: While personal growth is an individual journey, having a support system can make a significant difference. Whether it’s friends, a life coach, or a therapist, surrounding yourself with people who encourage and challenge you can provide the motivation and accountability you need to keep moving forward.
6. Reflect and Adjust: Regular reflection is essential in your growth journey. Take time to assess your progress, recognize what’s working, and identify areas where you might need to adjust your approach. This reflection helps you stay aligned with your goals and adapt to any changes along the way.
7. Commit to the Process: Growth is not a one-time event but a continuous process. It requires commitment and perseverance. By staying dedicated to your personal development, you build resilience and the capacity to handle future challenges with greater ease.
8. Focus on the Present: While it’s important to have long-term goals, remember that growth happens in the present moment. Focus on the steps you can take today to move closer to your goals. By being mindful of the present, you can make more deliberate choices that support your growth.

By integrating these strategies into your life, you can cultivate an environment where growth is not just possible but inevitable. Remember, you are not alone on this journey. As someone who has walked this path and continues to do so, I’m here to guide, support, and cheer you on as you embrace the changes that lead to your best self.

Yours in guiding your growth
Amisha